Dating in issue outside race still today troubles dating single mother

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As Jasmine Holmes writes about being black and single, “I still find myself looking back and wishing that my white friends knew—or at least admitted—some of the unique struggles that I had to face and that I still watch so many of my [black] sisters in Christ face every day.” The church has both a crisis and an opportunity on its hands.

With that in mind, how can we as local church communities help to heal the broken identities of our black sisters, especially in the realm of relationships?

(By contrast, my husband’s and my generation, the baby boomers, did tend to date and marry within our race.) While intermarriage is becoming more common, black women in America still face significant challenges in their relationships with black men, and the problem is doubly difficult for women in the church.

When I responded that a) There are worse things in life then having dinner with someone who you find unattractive, andb) His friend was at fault for not exchanging photos before meeting up he was totally unconvinced, and more then a tad miffed that i should question his judgement.

(Bear in mind that there weren’t even PCs around he was last single) Anyway, my dad’s friend has subsequently met a great woman on the internet with whom he is in a committed relationship.

They don’t have time to “date around” several times a week.(actually neither would I). Women, being more vulnerable than men, are more hesitant to date online, so you get a situation where there’s a lot more men than women.

Aside from my own luck and the trendy radio ads and sexy commercials, it seems as if no one’s happy.

Here is what I wrote back to her: First of all, I’ve had EVERY bad dating experience you can possibly imagine.

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