” —Steven Gartland, Poughkeepsie, NY Love lesson: It’s so simple, but when people are working to impress another person, they can forget to focus on, well, that other person.“The formula for writing the first email is very easy: Take one thing out of the person’s profile and say you noticed it,” says Liz Kelly, dating coach and author of .’” —Leon Chittams, Landover, MD Love lesson: The first thing addressing your crush by name does is makes him or her feel a little less worried that you’re sending out dozens of “I liked your profile! But using the person’s name when you write also creates a feeling of warmth and intensity. “Shoot—Jill, I forgot to make those copies you asked for,” or “Mark, I really think we should order Chinese for dinner.” It makes the exchange warmer and more personal. When the cutie in question is wading through a sea of emails from strangers, using his or her screen name comes across as friendly and interested—both good indicators that you’re more likely to hear back.Case history: “I’ve hit reply when a guy calls me, in a smart-aleck way, on something I’ve said in my profile.
Also, know that women get complimented on their pictures all the time—both our experts and users say it’s more effective when a guy says he was taken with something non-physical, like the way she writes or another attribute that was obvious through her profile.It absolutely got me to write back.” —Kim Newman, San Diego, CA Love lesson: The number-one challenge in online dating is standing out from the crowd somehow (in a good way, of course).Everyone is intrigued by a person who’s had an unusual experience—it makes for more surprising small talk and anecdotes they can remember—so don’t hesitate to mention your huge collection of cheesy salt shakers, your speed-walking trophy, the fact that you grew up on a commune or anything else that may make someone just curious enough to write back and find out more.Join for free and see how online dating for parents can be so much fun!Single Parent Love is part of the well-established Cupid Media network that operates over 30 reputable niche dating sites.“Before you get to know one another, cleverness can come off as sarcastic,” warns Judsen Culbreth, author of .