Many daters associate divorced people with excess baggage.
While there can be some red flags (like if his relationship ended because he was unfaithful), people who've been through a divorce tend to have a deeper, more realistic perspective on marriage than those haven't.
These can be great perks," says licensed psychotherapist Tina B. They're also more "willing to share their feelings and tackle the tough topics," says relationship expert Lori Bizzoco, founder of Cupids "Men who are divorced enjoy companionship that they were familiar with having been married before," says La Pronda, 43, who's dated both never-married and divorced men.
"They don't shy away from a conversation about relationships, marriage, love and intimacy." Adds Bizzoco, "Even though his previous marriage didn't work out, dating shows he's willing to open himself up to love and that he's interested in something serious again."4. Men naturally want to "fix" things and problem solve, life coach and dating expert Brooke Lewis points out, which can translate into a post-divorce desire for a successful new relationship.
I have many single girlfriends who share this choice and many who chose marriage, had children and got divorced.
I have found that dating divorced men with children to be an amazing experience for myself, as well as my friends and clients who are now single women with children of their own.
Tessina says, noting that she andher husband had both gone through splits when they married 32 years ago. Divorced men have the gifts of hindsight and feedback, which make them more attentive partners in their next relationships, Sussman says.
I have found that men who have been married are a bit more structured and familiar with the little things.
As I have gotten older, I have loved dating divorced men with kids because it has taken the pressure off of me to have children with them.
I have also learned that men with kids love much more deeply. For all you single Mom readers, I think dating divorced men with children is a huge plus.
"Divorced men may be done having kids after one marriage," so if you don't want any, he won't push the issue unlike some single, childless men, she says.
On the other hand, Lewis says that divorced men tend to be more open to moms. Carroll says, divorced men are more established professionally and may make more money than single guys who've never been married.
I believe that marriage teaches men responsibility, structure, how to co-define reality, what women want and how to put someone else before themselves.