(Watch how daunting dating can be for those with STDs )"I went on Craig's List and posted a note that said, 'I live in Charlotte, North Carolina, and I'm a decent professional man, and I've ended up with this.' Someone then contacted me and said, 'Have you heard of Charlotteh?
'"Once John joined - part support group, part dating site for people with herpes - everything changed.
A big part of STD Internet groups is social outings. "When we go on outings, we don't put a sign up in the hallway saying, 'Meeting of the Charlotte herpes club,'" Pam said, "Once we went to dinner and there were 30 of us and the hostess asked, 'What's the special occasion?
One site, H2Ofriends.com, lists events for people with herpes in some 40 cities, from San Francisco, California, to Cedar Rapids, Iowa. ' My friend said, 'We're the Charlotte pottery club!
Even knowing when to tell a prospective boyfriend about herpes is tough.
"It's confusing, because you don't know when the right time is to tell somebody.
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"I would have been happy to have had just one person to unload everything I was feeling," he says.
"Instead I found more than 500.""Charlotteh" was started two years ago by Pam - who, like John, doesn't want her last name used.
Should you be up front and get it over with or wait until the person develops feelings for you?
It's a big ethical problem."For Jennifer Nicholas, it was more than just an ethical problem.
These sites immediately take several questions off the table.