When dating becomes exclusive


I was thinking of giving it a few weeks and if it doesn’t come up, to say something along the lines of “Since we’re exclusive now does that mean I should take my profile down?” versus “I’ve noticed you still have your profile up, are you dating other people?

Notice my contemptuous tone - I've lost Seoul girlfriends simply because I wasn't "local" enough and yes…it has made me somewhat bitter (unfortunately.) But I'm getting better. If Korea's culture and society didn't make it tough enough - Local guys (in general) don't want it to happen either. Note that the prettier she is - the more guys will shame her.

Local guys (like local women) have obligations too and envy expats because they don't.

They're insecure because expats are a variable they can't control.

And, apparently, what HE wants to do is promise exclusivity to you while continuing to look for other women online.

He must think you’re a fool because, really, everyone spies on everyone in the online dating world.

” Or will bringing it up at all make me seem needy and jealous? It’s like making a New Years resolution to do cardio, but refusing to ever set foot in the gym. Maybe this guy needs a dictionary to clarify the term “exclusive,” but, by pretty much any standard, “exclusive” doesn’t mean logging onto Match to peruse other women. You want to know how the concept of “mirroring” (seen in “Why He Disappeared”) plays into online dating. If he emails you immediately, you email him back immediately. If he asks for your phone number, give it to him with a time to call.

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