The down side was that I’d left it quite late to book, and you had to pre-order some of the Halal steak cuts two days in advance.
There were other steak dishes on the menu, and lots of other tempting meaty food.
In my case, when that courtship hasn’t happened in the past, it’s on me.
As a Muslim girl, I’ve been raised to not ask or expect.
Having tried the ‘marriage experiment’ once, I know that religion doesn’t play a role in the day-to-day, but culture definitely does. It’s not about whether the guy opens the door for you or whether he picks up the tab at dinner.
I got a lot of ‘But Jaz, he’s a Muslim’, ‘Are you sure about this? Sadly, racism and prejudice is still very much a thing among some people, and too many are still taking warped ideas about Islam and images of a minority of Muslims doing awful things on the news, and applying them to the majority. Some people choose to later when the whole marriage thing happens, but it’s a choice) ‘Does he mind people knowing that you’re a couple? Tradition is something that most families will want to hold on to, so reluctance toward accepting something like a relationship with someone outside of their faith is definitely going to take some time.
Nope, I don’t see the logic there either, and it really is quite sad. Although it’s hard for people our age to get that once upon a time, gay, inter-race or inter-faith couples just weren’t a thing (at least publicly), and for some members of a more conventional, older generation, its still something that their getting their heads around. Especially when you’ve reached a point where you want to be involved in each other’s family lives. It’s not going to be an easy ride but if you both want to make it work, you can. Most of the drama comes from other people who just don’t get it. I don’t know, maybe they missed that PSHE lesson in yeah 4 about not judging people before you get to know them.
If you asked me to tell you about my boyfriend, I’d spend hours going on about how he makes me laugh even when I’m trying to be stroppy, and how he brings me donuts when I’m stressed (He’s a keeper, right? For some reason though, when I’m mid-way through my well-rehearsed story about how we met and how in luuurve we are, the bit that people get caught up on is the fact that he’s Muslim... I was christened as a baby, my grandma still has the puffy white gown that I wore, and we go to church on Christmas morning, but like many girls in their 20s, I wouldn’t say that religion plays a significant part in my day to day life.
On the other hand though, following Islam plays a more prominent role for my boyfriend’s.
Military service men and women who’ve done tours in Afghanistan are floored by the hospitality.